Fey Spirit ([info]fey_spirit) wrote,
@ 2009-03-31 13:42:00
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Current mood: curious

Pigeonholing
I read target="blank">This Story about pigeonholing and static evaluation and found it fascinating.

It got me to thinking and so I have a question for each and every on of you.
I know who I think I am, but what I want to know is what other people think of me.
If you had to describe me from what you know about me, what would you say?
Be brutally honest - I can take the good and the bad... need to if I want a real idea of how I come across.

If you'd like feel free to ask me to return the favor, and if you want to post this to your journal and let me know so I can post a response there.


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[info]scarfman
2009-03-31 06:07 pm UTC (link)

"There's someone on my flist who seems to have friended me because of my fanfiction with Donna in it, who posts mostly macros."

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[info]fey_spirit
2009-04-01 02:49 pm UTC (link)
Thank you.
Looks like I could stand to post a little more about myself to my journal =)
And you're right - I do love your Donna fic.

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[info]minerva_fan
2009-03-31 06:42 pm UTC (link)
Fey is an intense, intelligent, passionate person who is not always her best friend. She is learning to relax into life and to be more spiritual. She vascillates between unbelievably generous and absurdly selfish, and that contradiction makes her both fascinating and maddening. She has many talents, but not the confidence that should naturally accompany such talents. She is fragile and bullish and sweet and tough all at the same time. She is wonderful, and being her friend/partner/lover is at times magnificent, at times challenging, and at other times wondrous.

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[info]fey_spirit
2009-04-01 02:53 pm UTC (link)
Thank you for all the kindness...
And I'm working on my self confidence =)
I could also work on the generous/selfish equation, but I don't know how successful I'll be. That seems to be part of the hard wiring.
I think the trick here is to work on learning to accept abundance - it's the fear of starvation that causes the selfishness.

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[info]cranky__crocus
2009-03-31 07:05 pm UTC (link)
Wonderful reading. I always say the hard thing isn't changing yourself, but changing people's impression--it's easy to change, have others keep the same views and express only surprise at the changes (which stings), and go right back into old ways. I have done this many times.

I'm not very good at point-blank expressing what I think of people. My own pigeonholes are fuzzy.

I think of you as a kind and fiercely loyal person, fiercely loyal to the point of being overly confrontational sometimes--which, to be honest, is needed sometimes. I also know my view of this is increased because we have a text-based relationship and if I am sensitive in real life (I am), I am more so through text. Sometimes I feel I should tiptoe around you, but more out of my own non-backed fear than for any sensible reason.

The above to me would be the only "negative" and even then I don't like to see things in the black and white of "positive" and "negative," so I don't believe it to be a mar on your person.

To me you are kind, intelligent and have a wonderful sense of humour. Beautiful spirituality. Very caring and willing to open your wings to cover someone else when needed, or even when it's not but is wanted. Very capable of maturity but delighting in the immature--to me a very "positive" thing.

It's funny how much pigeonholes are based on the Self. We're really judging everyone else based on ourselves. It makes sense, of course. But still darkly humorous to me. Why would I consider someone confrontational? Because I am sensitive. But if someone is slightly rude and caustic, I may find it delightfully amusing as far as dry wit. Someone else would find it unacceptable if he or she were to not have that type of humour. In the end, the whole lot of it makes me giggle a bit!

But you're showing real courage to post this up. I tip my hat to you!

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[info]fey_spirit
2009-04-01 03:21 pm UTC (link)
Thank you for the kind words, two of you have now commented on my loyalty. Though I can't remember what I have done to garner notice of my loyalty I am pleased that it shows through... because well yes. Loyal to a fault, that's me.

I need to work on toning down my aggression, there are ways to defend others and to walk the path of the warrior without outright aggression, at least most of the time. I need to stop taking the easy way out.

You're right of course how each person sees us is a reflection of us and of themselves. That's what I love about you, you're precocious - it takes most folks decades to figure that out.

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[info]cranky__crocus
2009-04-02 07:23 pm UTC (link)
Your loyalty certainly does shine through. I agree with the warrior statement--and I have to follow through with the same.

Smiles. Thank you for your words in exchange. "Precocious" rings rather true. I had precocious puberty as a child. I was a woman in mind long before peers. Sometimes I wonder if that played a hand in creating me.

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[info]featherxquill
2009-04-01 02:35 pm UTC (link)
I think you're a passionate, strong-willed person with deeply held beliefs in both political and spiritual matters. Stubborn (yeah Taurus *high-fives*), sometimes to a frustrating degree, but also honest, caring and loyal.

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[info]fey_spirit
2009-04-01 05:35 pm UTC (link)
You're sweet...
And maybe I need to work on being stubborn a little more then I thought I did.

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